We’re looking for Mentors!

It’s been a long time coming! We’ve done our ground work, supported and learnt from others, now we are ready to take action!

Join our team and become a mentor!

Womandla Mentor

Requirements:

As a mentor, you will support and guide a determined young woman on their journey to success.
You will contribute in leading positive change in their lives.
You will be the key that unlocks the potential that this country has to offer.
You will be able to network with SA’s successful women who will also be mentoring.
You will have the opportunity to invest in a young women’s life.

If this is something you would like to invest your time, skills and passion in, please respond to the call by emailing our Head of Mentorship, Yolanda yolanda.mngxe@gmail.com

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The UN is calling all Bloggers and Storytellers

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The UN Women Ethiopia Country office, under its regional project, “African Women Changing the Narrative, is calling on interested journalists to apply for its capacity building training on “Gender Responsive Story Telling and Documenting Stories of Success” scheduled to take place 8-11 August 2017. I would enter but I will be at the UN Symposium during this time.

This project, African Women Changing the Narrative, is courtesy of a three-year grant from the Austrian Development Cooperation. It aims to highlight the contribution by African women to development through their leadership capacities and their central role in the design of innovative approaches to development. It provides a platform for the mobilization of a movement towards a revised and positive narrative from and about African women. It is also used as a platform for inspiration and information sharing of stories of impact by and for women. Consequently, the virtual platform is a brand for “Changing the Narrative” and provides a source of information and a tool for knowledge management to advance the cause of gender equality and women’s empowerment.
The first journalist training was organized by UN Women Ethiopia Country Office (ECO) Liaison to the African Union and the African Union Office of the Special Envoy on Women, Peace and Security under the theme, “Gender-Responsive Reporting in Conflict, Post-Conflict and Fragile settings in Africa” on 18 and 19 October 2016, followed by African Union Peace and Security Council Open Session on the “Role of the media in promoting Women, Peace and Security” on 20 October 2016. The workshop brought together journalists, editors, reporters and bloggers who cover conflict-affected areas in Africa, representing both traditional and new media, including print, audio-visual and electronic media. It also targeted media practitioners who work for Pan-African, regional and national media outlets and organisations with influential reach and key audiences.

The African Union Commission, UN Women, and the Federal Republic of Germany also organized a high- level “Women Leaders Forum for Africa’s Transformation”, at the United Nations Headquarters in New York in early June, 2017. The three-day forum brought together over 80 women leaders including former Presidents, Vice Presidents and Prime Ministers, Members and a Speaker of Parliament, political party leaders and presidential candidates, Cabinet Ministers, local government leaders, private sector representatives, civil society activists and young women leaders. The three-day forum culminated in the launch of the African Women Leaders Network, a new initiative that seeks to enhance the leadership of women in the transformation of Africa with a focus on governance, peace and stability. There is therefore an opportunity and possible linkage presented for direct engagement between the journalists and women leaders, as the next meeting of the African Women Leaders Network is scheduled to convene in Addis Ababa, in February 2018.

The proposed training workshop and practical engagement aim to promote gender-sensitive reporting, positive storytelling that accurately portrays African women in a positive way rather than as victims and subordinate in society.
A key element of this area will also be to popularize and populate the UN Women Platform “African Women Changing the Narrative” to key media to use it as a resource as well as to contribute content for the platform.

The training workshop will begin with a 2 day of theoretical discussion and then a two days reporting engagement where participants will have the opportunity and access to several women leaders whereby they use the skills they learnt to produce stories of changed narratives for the project website http://awctn.unwomen.org/en

UN Women arranges travel and in-country logistics for 15 participants.

More information available here.

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KROTOA – A Khoisan heroin that cannot be forgotten

Krotoa –  is a significant name which had almost been erased in South Africa’s history, until this film was written and produced.  The film tells the story of a Khoisan tragic heroin who was taken from her close-knit family at just 11 years old to become Jan van Riebeeck’s language interpreter.

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Image courtesy of Uwe Jansch.

She grows into a visionary young woman, who assimilates the Dutch language and culture so well that she rises to become an influential interpreter for van Riebeeck,  the first Governor of the Cape Colony.

Krotoa, who was renamed ‘Eva’ by the Dutch, was eventually rejected by her own people and by the Dutch.

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She is one of the women in history, whose impact is generally forgotten yet whose story touches on important subjects of identity, sense of belonging and reconciliation.

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The film has already received official selections and awards at international film festivals and will be on South Africa’s big screens during Women’s Month.

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The day I start my magazine…

Researching the magazine and media landscape made me realize that investors and advertising are the lifeline of it – as with any business venture. As much as that may be a challenge to overcome, it still won’t hinder me from creating and publishing my own. Every great plan or dream comes with a plethora of tests, but beginning with the goal in mind pushes one to reach the finish line.

“You are your deepest desire. As is your desire so is your intention. As is your intention so is your will. As is your will so is your deed”.

Watching the below video  reminded me of the value and substance I want to continuously celebrate and record one day.  My desire is for women to feel fearless, beautiful and needed after going through the pages. I want them to eagerly anticipate the next issue, have their boundaries pushed and  paradigms shifted.  I’d like many others to contribute just to show how everything is possible and permissible. I want my magazine to be a community effort, soulful relief and source of quality information.

I’m just putting it out there. The Lord knows the desires of my heart.  Can’t wait until it happens.

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He’s a cheap date!

I used to often laugh when my Pastor spoke about stingy men. He called them “AmaSkorokoro” in jest, advising us to run for our lives when we see snippets of scrooge-like tendencies. The premise was never focused on gold digging, but merely to teach us all how ladies should be treated and how crafty some men can be.

A lifetime ago some bloke tried “cute” things I considered paltry. I’d mention a residential area that I liked, he’d say he would want to RETIRE there, I’d talk about a career move and he’d brag about an offer he ONCE received. I bought myself two pairs of shoes- on sale- (one for an event and one for…. life) and he said the women he married would have no say in his finances.

I was deeply perplexed because this conversation was about my everyday life and preferences, yet he took it personally, as if I’d asked for his permission or help in ANY of these things.

Ebendibona mos ku Instagram? Endibona naku LinkedIN? (He saw my posts on LinkedIn and Instagram)

HELLO. HASHTAG. LEVELS!

“Friends, if you are in the standard grade class- stay and excel there. Leave HIGHER GRADE things to the boffins.”- Samkelwe Gqomo 2016

I didn’t want anything of his, I was just sharing. Also, he should’ve noticed my lifestyle and done the math. He was obviously looking for love in the wrong place.

Love is not based on someone’s beauty. Love is not about wearing the other person down. Love is not reducing someone’s standard. Love is not so selfish or limiting. Yes, love is not about money,  but it is CERTAINLY not asking if the bread offered at a restaurant is FREE either.

Boy BYE!

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You’re gonna be loved

You’re gonna be loved and
Have no reason not to love
Back how you’re loved good.

You’re gonna be loved and
Fall for yourself in how they
Love the love in you.

You’re gonna be loved and
Not want it harmed. Not even
By you.

You’re gonna be loved
Enough for you to prune
Away your thorns, break away
Your walls, calm away your storms,
Shave away your scorn and do away
With the pain that pierces today from
Your past.

You’re gonna be loved and love won’t
Feel like an everyday war with God.

You’re gonna be won.

A heart priced by heaven for
Choosing itself to love and fill
Before any other.

A mind that loved its own peace
So much peace became its power.

The power and love you gave you
Became the love ten times you
Attracted for yourself to enjoy
As sheer proof that doing you
Was a better play, a great
Choice and the winning
Move.

You will be loved and true
Love can’t wait to know the best
Parts that rose from the worst in
You.

You deserve it too. All because
You’re choosing you.

– Hakeem Anderson-Lesolang

All about that BASS! – Meghan Trainor

Besides the banging blues beats that I absolutely love, it’s not often one sees a proverbial “fuller figured” caucasian singing about being meatier and bootylicious. I can’t speak for them (because I have a lot more melanin and meat), but the Western ideal of body image plays an gargantuan role in how ALL women view themselves.

I love how she doesn’t try to be a anything but original and fun! I hope the focus is on the rhythmic elements, the humour, satire and truth behind this song (as repetitive as it is).
With me things always deeper, but I’d hate to bore you. For those who don’t know her, she’s a newbie on the block. Meghan Trainor is her name and she also has a new single out called Dear Future Husband.
Enjoy!

 

Miss Eastern Cape- a pageant with a purpose

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I recently had the experience of being on a panel of what I thought was a beauty pageant. At the time of accepting the invitation, I had several reservations. Based on what I write about and who I am, you would know that I never want to be in a position of power that “judges” people according to their looks and legs and not who they are. That’s not who I am (anymore).The All-Girls’ school paradigm and standard of mainstream beauty has long evaded me and helping ladies feel secure in themselves is who I have chosen to be. I also advocate against the objectification of women which exploits their souls by the instrumentality of their bodies.

I walked into the venue filled with giggling girls in their high heels. Some looked eager, some nervous and others inert.

I spotted the organizer and brains behind the initiative, Zikhona Ngxata, who looked like one of the girls herself. Zikhona was a pageant queen and still holds the title and passion in her heart, which is why she brought this competition to life.

Of course, I snowballed her with questions about the pageant before sitting on the judging seat, just to ease my conscience.

Firstly I learnt that the pageant has two categories, Miss Eastern Cape (Ages 20-30) and Miss Eastern Cape Teen (ages 13-19). Secondly, the beauty pageant is focused on developing and empowering young girls and young women from the Eastern Cape.

Having looked at the social ills in our province, Zikhona’s team together with the Departments of Health and Education, found that the Eastern Cape is one of the provinces that is mostly affected by teenage pregnancy, substance abuse, poverty and illiteracy. Zikhona’s company came up with this campaign that tries to deter these young girls and young women away from the streets and instill value and principles of self-love and self-value.  Lastly, Miss Eastern Cape looks to develop these young ladies from a holistic approach; spiritually, politically, economically and socially.

Miss Eastern Cape (incl Teen) will instill values of gratitude,with the knowledge of the blood shed for our freedom. The onus  is on us to sustain and maintain this honour instead of abusing it. Furthermore, the women will work together with their chosen communities to build an even brighter and better future for our lovely, province and country.

Eastern Cape is the ‘home of legends’ and if we do not step up to the plate as young people, that statement will remain a part of history.

Women have  power to influence and need to be cognizant of it and activate it. This collective  influence will raise an army that will go together in fighting the social ills and making the province a better place to live in.

I believe this is the start of great things for the Eastern Cape and South Africa at large. The message behind this concept “beauty with purpose” completely overturns the external trajectory of outer beauty and focuses on the inner, truest beauty, compassion and social responsibility.

Needless to say, I was happy to be part of the Port Elizabeth panel and a keen supporter of this cause. Women, thou art loosed!

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*Miss Eastern Cape will be held at the East London International Convention Centre on 6 December 2014. Miss Eastern Cape and Miss Eastern Cape Teen  tickets are R 120.00 normal seats and R250.00 for VIP, (VIP includes a 3 course cocktail meal) and are available at Computicket!

The one flaw in EVERY woman

“Women have strengths that amaze men.

They bear hardships and they carry burdens,

but they hold happiness, love and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy

and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in…

They stand up to injustice.

They don’t take “no” for an answer

when they believe there is a better solution.

They go without so their family can have.

They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

They love unconditionally.

They cry when their children excel

and cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about

a birth or a wedding…

Their hearts break when a friend dies.

They grieve at the loss of a family member,

yet they are strong when they

think there is no strength left…

They know that a hug and a kiss

can heal a broken heart.

Women come in all shapes, sizes and colours.

They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you

to show how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what

makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, hope and love.

They have compassion and ideas.

They give moral support to their

family and friends.

Women have vital things to say

and everything to give..

However, if there is one flaw in women,

IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.”