A day in the life of Khanyi Dhlomo

I whizzed through lunch time traffic, ran up the infamous Jammie stairs and caught a great sight of the astute and graceful media, manufacturing and property mogul. (I MEAN GIIRRRRRRLLLL). Donning a draped, bottle green dress- she exuded confidence and so much poise.

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Khanyi and the InvestSoc.UCT committee

The purpose of her talk was unfolding “A day in the Life of Khanyi.”

She shared her life story from her (hard to believe) tomboy days to being the face of Thandi magazine at the age of 16. Her journey then saw her host the 8pm news and also during that time, she was Fashion and Beauty Assistant for True Love magazine.  Because she is amazing, she became editor of the magazine for eight years before jetting off to the UK to do her MBA at Harvard. (Shine!)

Here are the nine points she nailed down and elaborated on during her talk (all of which were supported by quotes- as she does):

  1. Be clear and specific about what you want.
  2. Take the road less travelled. Look for chances and opportunities. There are no wrong turns.
  3. Shift from “What do I get?” to “What do I give?”
  4. Know the power of focus. Choose one focus, master and give your 100% to it.
  5. Embrace failure. It’s an opportunity to be and do better. We are meant to grow.
  6. Prioritize to find balance. ‘Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished”
  7. Know and embrace your power. Negotiate for what you are worth.
  8. Master yourself, master your thoughts. Autosuggest and affirm yourself with your beliefs.
  9. Choose to be positive. Soldier on, regardless.

She touched on Luminance, Destiny, travel, mentorship, money, intelligent investments and habits. Folks, you just had to be there!

Thanks to the UCT InvestSoc group, I finally had the pleasure of “meeting” my #CareerCrush, Khanyi Dhlomo.

Now, I’m about to SLAY.

#Womandla

Indebted to my Dreams

I have been on a blogging hiatus for no apparent reason. I apologize. I find myself sounding like such an adult lately by saying life is just so busy, but honestly it is.

This concerns me (sort of) because, I know God speaks through me the most in this time of reflection and so ignoring it would be limiting His revelation.

But let’s cut to the chase. I am here to talk about dreams and how taxing they are. Physically, emotionally, financially and sometimes even relationally.

Again, I find myself moving to better prospects, therefore leaving my comfortable abode (that took several other moves to find) only to pack up and move again.

I felt like a nomad at some point. I started feeling like I am unstable and somewhat disloyal, but how dare I throw that in the face of my dreams?

Who said that one has to stay at one particular place for x amount of months, years, decades in order for them to conquer their dreams?

My talents and abilities pull me in all sorts of directions and do so at different intervals.

When there is a call on your life which is supported by a vision board that reminds you EVERYDAY of all the things you’d like to do, you live life with achieving those goals in mind notwithstanding societal norms. vision board

For me, my vocational journey has been supported by prayer. Every single year, God accelerates my advancements so far that it supersedes my expectation. I have dreams of cars I want to be driving and property I should be owning, places I should be traveling (as a measure of my success) then something pulls me back.

Matthew 20:16 “Those who come first will be last. Those who are last will come first.”

Chance happens to us all. Life is a journey and anything rushed will flutter by just as quickly. Instead of trying to keep up with the Jones’s by having fancy car debt, credit cards of a certain tier and Great Gatsby Instagram photos, let me grow my investment portfolio, serve the community more and use what I have for God’s glory.  Everything He touches multiplies anyway.

To you it may be moving back to your parents’ home to save, downgrading your car to invest or working two jobs to reach that 10 000 hours of success standing. Whatever it is, be indebted to your dreams first and see how the ‘things’ just avail themselves on the journey!

 

 

Work, Get, Build

I read the book Eat, Pray, Love and it changed my life for the best. I completely followed Liz’s advice in principle…. well until a certain point. Weaning off a bond that looked good on paper was one of the toughest things I had to go through.

The courage that it takes to leave the life that you have planned for the life predestined for you is insurmountable.

I don’t know what kind of budget Liz had to travel the world but I’m still trusting God for it. My journey wasn’t as physical as hers, but I certainly went on a hundred in terms of the spiritual plane.

At the time when I read the book, I believed it was God speaking to me. It was the only way that He could because I only picked up the bible on a Sunday.

Fast forward to a wonderful, budding relationship with Him, I realised I needed wise words that came directly from Him, from His heart and mind about being a single woman.

Through meditation, He gave me three steps in Proverbs 24:27

  1. Finish your outdoor work
  2. Get your fields ready
  3. [after that] Build your house

There is a divine order to be followed. Many of us tend to skip the first two steps and rearrange the order. We do this because of our own desires, to fill certain voids or to speed through and get stuff to prove that we are “successful.”

According to the list, the first step that I am meant to do is to help others that are outside of my confines. It’s easy to do favours for people you love, but God has commanded us to feed the poor, spread the gospel and show genuine love to people. This means I have to help out at NGO’s, care for the environment and community at large. This is what God expects from all His children, for us to serve.

Secondly, I need to prepare my fields and make sure that they are ready. See, I am not a farmer so this step must allude to savings plans, investing, starting a business, growing relationships and networks etc. as this is what fields mean metaphorically in the word. I need to start investigating trust funds, comparing insurances, evaluating property markets and essentially create good ground for the next and final stage.

“After that” are words purposefully used to show that a lot of work goes into building a home before being completely financially and emotionally ready.

God wants me to be co-dependant, independent and interdependent. As single (and sometimes desperate) ladies we rush for the husband, children and white picket fence ideal as if we will never get there. We base our whole lives on the third step.

Through this, I have learned that He wants me to have compassion for others first, he wants me to lack nothing so that I can sow back in His kingdom and he wants me to be happy and have the life I deserve. He wants that for all of us.

But first things must come first and I am taking on the challenge with the end goal in mind. Who knows, while I am serving, or doing business and following God’s divine order, I may meet the person who I am to build a home with.

This ticks all the boxes on God’s list and gives me hope that I too get a sweet end to the stick.

Winning!