Her Highness, Anele Nzimande

Many might know this dynamic young lady from the SABC 1 series, One Day Leader, a Wits Golden Key Society committee member and recently successful candidate for Wits LSC Elections. Her ambition, prowess and finesse grades her as one of God’s chosen people who lead a  purpose driven life. She definitely is a force to be reckoned with and is far more phenomenal than her 20-year young life suggests.

She is studying her third year in Law at Wits and is the first contributor to Sorority Sayings.

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I asked her a few questions about her achievements, aspirations and women in general.

SS: Q. If you could create a job position for yourself, what would it entail?

AN: A. Fortunately for me, they already exist. My heart is set on philanthropy and journalism. I want to mesh up the two, and tell the world inspiring stories through the eyes of a 20 year old. I’m also a lover of law. I love how laws are constantly evolving; and that there are two sides to every tale and each is weighed up on a balance of probabilities and where necessary, factual evidence. It [the job] would entail lots of listening, feeling, writing and then sharing with others.

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SS: Q. What is your greatest achievement to date?

AN: A. In 2011, I went to New York as part of the delegation for Model UN. That was a personal victory for me, to have been selected out of a many brilliant and capable candidates. Traveling to NYC stirred something in me. It lifted a veil from my eyes and made me realize how much life was going on outside of town. There are people in a different timezone and hemisphere who believe in the same things I do and are affected by the same things I am. It’s very different hearing about it, seeing it with your own eyes changes you.

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SS: Q. From a bird’s eye view, what would you say the state of the nation is?

AN: A. There is so much change going on in this country that I’m afraid to answer this (in case my opinion changes). So anything I say here, should be taken with a pinch of salt. [ LOL at the disclaimer] South Africa is in a very critical time in democracy, a transformative period where we can start to ask the hard questions [that] we’ve been avoiding this whole time. We are 20 years old, and like the typical 20-year old, we are evolving, sometimes a little unsure of ourselves and being tugged in too many directions.

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SS: Q. What role do or should women play in this?

AN: A. Women need to take an active role in shaping the political landscape of the country. We shouldn’t be afraid to challenge and disagree. Most importantly, we need to steer away from ‘ad hominem’ politics. When we call Drs. Lindiwe Sisulu or Mamphela Ramphele ‘an old gogo’, this is not in the spirit of fair politics or feminisim. We all need to stop this type of bullying and have no tolerance for those who instigate it, because it just isn’t nice.

ImageSS: Q. Lastly, is there a question you’d like to answer but never asked?

AN: A. YES! “Anele, why do you call yourself Time Traveller?” My answer would be, “Because my body is a time machine.”

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And that’s a a tasty, scrumptious, enlightening, filling wrap! Thank you world changer and history maker!

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The Parable of the Boiled Frog

In my journey of life I often always meet women who are constantly in some kind of relationship trouble. It never occurs to them that they have a choice on how to react or whether or not it is still worth it to be in the relationship. But I shouldn’t include matters of the heart; too much of a knotted helix, which I am not qualified to unstitch. Also, as I am always on the receiving end, at my heightened view, I can be too critical or sound emotionless, forgetting that I’m dealing with someone new who knows not of the several case studies I have just encountered.

So as these women saunter in their labyrinths of love, they meet “Jerks of all trades” who completely confuse their well-beings and identities and unconsciously teach them how they should be treated. They accept these behaviours in hopes of things changing (by a strike of lightening from the heavens that will turn the leopard’s spots into stripes) and going back to the sweet honeymoon phase of being pursued and wanted again.

These women are so great, filled with potential and wit. Their hands are full of gold and purpose. They are beautiful. But they risk nemesis by inviting such rejection, complacency, abuse into their hearts. It’s scarring. These women are our mothers, aunts, neighbours and friends, culturally taught to withstand all adversity at the sake of their distant families.  What a curse!

And so the example of the frog is brought up.

“If you put a frog in a pot of boiling water, it will immediately scramble out. However, if you put the frog in a pot of cold water and gradually turn up the heat, the frog will become groggier and groggier, until it is unable to climb out the pot. Although there is nothing restraining it, the frog will sit there and boil. Why? Because the frog’s internal apparatus for sensing threats to survival is geared to sudden changes in the environment-not slow, incremental changes.”

The signs are always there.

We as women only react to dramatic changes whereas ignoring the gradual signs and processes lead to bigger threats that cost our souls more.

Don’t wait too long.

How far will you have to go before you learn the lesson?

I can’t see another macabre headline of murder, torture, abuse, suffering and the like.

When you know you’re enough, you’ll know when you’ve had the same.