This blog is not about Drugs. So to all the addicts you can QUIT now. (See what I did there?) LOL. Its about Beyonce’s song. I know I am a stan, but this particular song has much truth in it.She mentions a few things that are so relevant to most of our lives. People overlook that song because it wasn’t a Pop single or Hit, but dig a little deeper into your albums (Or YouTube) and find it, -you might feel not as “alone.”
So many women, mothers, hold the forts to their households, positions, relationships etc. They are breadwinners, psychologists, nurses, sisters, sounding boards and friends and in all of that role-playing they sometimes don’t have time for themselves. Then they choose one of two things. Either being sour and blaming the world. They gain weight and lose their self esteems and basically go downhill, or there are the ones who actually stop their spinning worlds and give themselves some time to recoup. These women know that they need the time off . They know that things will work out in the end even if it means doing damage control. These women spoil themselves in ways they see fit.
I applaud both types of women.
Life isn’t easy. Making the decisions which they do, all require strength; the strength to endure or the strength of walking away from the toxicity of some of life’s ordeals. I have felt worn out before, actually quite recently. Maybe because I did a lot of thinking about what needs to be done, instead of just doing it. Also because I felt I had too much on my plate in the very time I was trying to “cut things out”. You don’t always have to be the heroine. Sometimes accept defeat. Say no, to things you cannot manage, step out of thing that will compromise you. You cannot hold the world on your shoulders.
So for those who are always selfless and willing to help, also consider yourself. Your health and soul is at risk. As women we have got to look after ourselves. If you consider yourself way too often, try reaching out and considering someone else. Either way that you choose, you’ll be healing yourself and/or others.
Take time out. Do some stretches. Ask for help.
Live, Love, Laugh (cry a little bit too)